My Body Positive experience at Tedx Lingnan University – Bold

This year in March, one of the most amazing experiences in my life happened –  I did a TED Talk about body positivity. I have spread the message to a crowd of 200 people, it was terrifying but at the end all worth it.

All these years of being a body positive advocates, sharing the message, trying to be an example of what it means to live happily no matter what size you are, has lead me to this opportunity and I am forever grateful of it.

It was my first public speech and I was really nervous, so I have unconsciously shorten the speech from 15 mins to 9. Once the talk is over, the tremendous relief I had was unspeakable. When the crowd cheered and claps I felt like I have done the right thing and I couldn’t help but burst out in tears again.

Three months later, I watch it for the first time, I cringed and stop 3 minutes in. By just looking at my face, I remembered how I have prepared for my speech, rewrite and rewrite into the wee hours in the morning, to the last night before the big day, then practice nonstop for the next 12 hours on it. Tears keep coming down my cheek as I was practicing, I was so afraid that the quality of this piece is not good enough and I was worried sick, hence my puffy eyes in the video 🙂

The last moment before I got on stage, I told myself it’s too late to go back, the only thing I want to do right that moment is to convey my message, to tell young people to love themselves. I put on a brave face and tried to joke around a bit ( which failed) but here I am.

I cannot express how grateful I am today being able to participate at such an inspirational event, there were 14 speakers including myself. I took away something great from each of the speakers. Not only that their speech moves me, but hearing them speak about their own experience on trying to do what they love, is truly inspiring. We are all working hard trying to achieve something worth fighting for, it’s our hopes, dreams and our own belief, all trying to make the world a better place to live for mankind 🙂 All the speakers are truly inspiring, so I really recommend anyone to start going online and watch as many TED video as possible. You will gain new knowledge, be inspired and know that you are not alone fighting for a better future for our next generation.

Being bold is being somebody doing things that is outside of the box, to me, that’s doing things that is different and out of your comfort zone, I guess putting myself out there constantly to talk about body positivity, size acceptance and in general living in Hong Kong as a plus size woman earned me a spot, because not many are talking about it, and to raise awareness on the subject, to stop body shaming which is toxic and damaging to anyone, is what I will keep doing. Again I am really grateful for the opportunities the media has given to me.

Special thanks to all my fellow body positive warriors, without you girls, I couldn’t have done this (credits from clockwise)!

Singapore –  Aarti Olivia Dubey of Curves become her, curator of #effyourbeautystandard curator of Asia

Philippines – Danah and Anastazcia Gutierrez of Plump Magazine #Iamflawsome

England – Michele Elman of the #Scarrednotscared movement @Mindsetforlife

Singapore – Kaylene online and Priscilla Boh #Iam campaign

Last but not least, the woman who changed my life – Canada – Honorine of Honorcurves, the founder of #honormycurves movement, she was the first person to give me courage and change my perspective on self love. I love you girl!

SPECIAL Special thanks to Marc Lebane, producer of TEDxLingnanUniveristy, who taught me many things so I could complete my first TED talk, also for giving me the opportunity to have a TED talk.

Tariq Sh, whom helped me tremendously on editing of my speech and practice with me, you are awesome.