Curvasians – Danyl from the Philippines

If you have lived in Asia, you have probably encounter comments that target your body size instead of who you are, and more than once! The first “greeting” from people around us are usually comments about our appearance even they mean no harm. It goes like this, “Hey you have lost weight, prettier now!” “Hey your butt looks bigger than last time I saw you! Watch your diet!”

We as individuals, are not usually being praised for our personalities or the knowledge and contribution one holds, but reduced to how many pounds we weight or how pretty we are. I believe women are more than that, that we do not necessarily have to survive using our beauty as what the society deem to believe in nowadays.

In general, most people understand that Asian culture is very different than the west when it comes to “beauty standard”, it is even more conservative comparing to the west. Even in the eyes of the westerns, their perception of “oriental beauty” seems to be reference like Susie wong, or Lucy Liu or whoever they know that is asian, and they are slender dark hair females. But If you have been to Asia you will know that Asians also come in all shapes and sizes too!

In this Curvasians series, I will interview some of the women I have come across as the “Outstanding outcasts” in our society, to showcase samples of who we REALLY are, surpassing the surface of beauty. Afterall, a beautiful mind is what lasts. We will go beyong what’s on the outside, to learn about how some of us see the world, how they have become who they are in their journey.
This is the first curvasian interview I have conducted a while back! We have Danyl from the Philippines. I have met Danyl through Instagram since I have join a few years ago. She has been a force on ig and a fellow aspiring fashion girl that I associate with. We have had similar expereince living in Asia as a non size 2 and that we have both fought our own battle with body images, we have strived and survived, below we will get to know her more

What is your name and where are you from?

My Name is Danyl Lynn Dee, I am from the Philippines.

What size of clothes do you wear?

My size is either Large or Extra Large its depend how they made it. For example, from Forever 21 my size will be a Large and in HM is Extra Large 🙂 

Who is your favorite designer for clothing and your favorite style?

My Favorite Designer is Rachel Zoe because she’s very Classy and Fab… She had a trademark/ signature, That is the reason why I admire her as I have learned a lot from her… each of US has our own trademark/signature style.

My favorite style is Monochrome – black and white. Most of my clothes are color black or white I don’t know why?(Bertha : It is because that’s your favorite style ;))

But one thing that I know is that our style is based on our PERSONALITY.

If one likes girly looks, one will like mostly colorful items, as opposed to someone who likes Black and White. So i guess my Personality reflect what my STYLE Is :)) 

What is your life like living in your country as a curvy Asian girl (*as oppose to most of the other Asians who are naturally lean)?

 

Most of the Curvy Filipina are SIMPLE, they tend to just wear what’s available, and will usually wear loose clothes to hide their FATS because most of us were ashamed of our BODY. 

You know, I was skinny before, but my confident has increased whilst I gain weight.

I’d realize I need to LOVE myself, of course  I have felt depressed before when i gain weight :)) but because of the all CURVY WOMAN in the WHOLE WIDE WORLD and it is really AMAZING!!! and INSPIRING!!! Like YOU!! You Inspired me too!! (Bertha: Thank you :)) Thats why im so thankful to the Honormycurves Movement. Because of her I  have GAINED my CONFIDENT.

And i know Not only me she has CHANGED but many other Ladies and FILIPINA too.

Have you learned anything positive or remarkable from the above experience? What do you love about yourself?

 

Of couse yes!!! Very Remarkable haha :)) and I have had so much to learn when it comes to styling my clothes. Before, I would envy so much whenever I see other sexy ladies wearing sexy clothes! And I would think I CANT! But I LEARNED that i can wear those sexy outfit in other way ^_^

What do I love about myself? I think! I LOVE being FAT so much haha!! I dont mean being Fat that I always eat but to know how to take care of my health while being curvy ^_^ 

I think PERSONALITY is the most important, not the way you carry you clothes, not the way you flaunt your body, or how nice your skin is, but your PERSONALITY 🙂 Why? Because if you do not love YOURSELF first and what God has given to you, you cant be BEAUTIFUL. If you don’t love yourself, no matter how you try to push it only on the appearance, your “TRUE FORM” will not appear until you take your FIRST STEP is to LOVE YOURSELF.

If you were to join a non-profit organisation to help our society, what would it be?

It would be the Dentous Et Cus Volunteer (Dental Mission).

Ive been a volunteer there for 5 years.

We  have HELPED a lot of people around the Philippines and we gave them a beautiful Smile.

We provide free Cleaning, free Tooth extraction for those who cannot afford the Dental Treatment. We also educated the children on how to take care of their teeth in order to prevent the carious lesion and to have a great smile in the Future 🙂

What / Who is your inspiration?  What do you love doing that promote positivity and happiness?

Actually, its all started on Instagram as I was inspired by people’s #OOTD! Haha :))

When I am on Instagram, I try to influence all Filipina to also try to gain their Confidence ^_^  

My heart melts when I am being compliment, I am told that I’m beautiful, sexy, and those words really melt my heart. So thats why I continued to inspired people and of course because of them and YOU! I never GIVE UP ^_^ 

 

Any tips for the young women nowadays, our next generation?

I would like to give my tips to ALL the Women in the Whole Wide World!

1.Don’t be afraid of being who you are. You might be compared by others but if you showed what or how you OVERCOME your FEAR and just be yourself, you will definitely be an INSPIRATION to all Women.

2: Don’t be shy. Be Proud what God has given to you 🙂 Because God never provide to us ungraceful gifts.

3. Be Positive and stay focus on YOURSELF.

4: Do what You LOVE because LIFE is too short to waste your time doing anything NONSENSE. 🙂 

(Danyl helped us translated the article into Tagalog as this is her first langugage and it would also be really great to share this with her people from the Philippines in the original context.)

Q: Ano Pangalan mo at saan ka galing

A: Ang pangalan ko ay Danyl Lynn Dee at galing ako sa Pilipinas

Q: Anung sukat ang mga sinusuot mo? 

A: Ang aking sukat ay alin man sa dalawa pwedeng Malaki or mas malaking Sukat depende sa pagkakayari nito tulad ng Forever 21 ang sukat ko doon ay Malaki (large) pero sa H&M ay Mas malaki (extra Large) 🙂 

Q: Sino ang paborito mong Disenyo para sa Damit? Ano ang paborito mong Istilo?

A: Aking paborito kong Disenyo ay si Rachel Zoe dahil napaka Classy at Fab nya. Ayun din ang rasyon bakit ko sya gustong gusto, ang dame ko natutunan sakanya na bawat TAO ay may sariling TATAK 

Paborito kong istilo ay Monochrome – Itim and Puti. Karamihan sa mga damet ko ay itim at puti, di ko alam bakit (Bertha : Dahil ito ang iyong paboritong istilo ;)) 

Pero isa lang alam ko na bawat istilo naten ay binabase sa ating personalidad. Kung ang mga kikay na babae kadalasan ang hilig nila ay makukulay at sa kabaliktaran nito sa mga mahilig sa itim at puti. Kaya’t ang aking Personalidad ay naipapahiwatig kung anu ang Istilo ko 🙂 

Q: Ano klaseng pamumuhay sa iyong bansa bilang Kurbang Asiana (bilang karamihan sa babae sa normal na buhay)

A: Karamihan sa mga babae Filipinang Kurba ay SIMPLE lang tamang ayos, kadalasan maluluwag na damet na tinatago mga TABA, kasi nahihiya dahil malaman kame,,Alamo mo ba ako nagsimula ako sa payat pero mas tumaas un “Confident” ko nang TUMABA na ako, natuklasan ko mahalin ang sarili ko, at syempre nadepress den ako noong una dahil tumaba ako pero dahil sa tulong ng marami Kurbabg babae sa buong MUNDO parang nakakaWOW ? Kahanga hanga sila, tulad mo, Hinahangaan kita as in,,,(Bertha: Salamat Sayo :))  kaya laking pasasalamat ko din talaga sa honormycurves movement dahil sakanya tumaas un Confident ko at alam ko hinde lang ako napabago pati na den ang sa lahat ng babae at mga FILIPINA din 🙂

Q: May natutunan ka ba na kahit anung positibo o pambihira mula sa mga naranasan mo?Ano mga bagay na minahal mo sa sarili mo?

A: Ay OO naman! Pambihira tlga 🙂 at ang dame ko talaga natutunan tulad na lang sa pag isstilo ng damet. Dati parang lahat na lang isuot ng mga sexy babae naiinggit ako, tas ako di ko magagawa. Pero yung nalampasan ko takot ko, natutunan ko maari din ako mag suot ng mga damet na pang payat sa ibang pamamaraan 🙂   

Gustong gusto ko mga Taba ko! Pero di ibig sabihin na kain ng kain pero dapat marunong paden alagaan un sarili naten habang tayo ay kurba pangalawa ay ang PAGKATAO, di sa pano ako manamit, di sa katawan ko makurba o sa kulay ng balat kundi dahil sa PAGKATAO 🙂 bakit? Dahil kung di mo mahal ang sarili mo at di mo minahal ang bigay ng PANGINOON sayo, di ka tlga magiging MAGANDA kahit ilan beses mo subukan, di lalabas un “TOTOO ANYO” mo kung di mo gagawin ang Unang Hakbang ang mamahalin iyong SARILI 🙂 

Q: Kung ikaw sasali sa isang samahang hindi pangkalakan organisasyon para tulungan ang sambayanan, ano ito? 

A: Ito ay ang Dentous Et Cus Volunteer (Dental Mission) Boluntaryo na ako ng 5 years. Marami na kame natulungan na tao sa buong parte ng Pilipinas para magkaroon ng NGITI. 

Nagbibigay kame ng libreng Linis, Libreng Bunot para sa mga tao di makaya ang Dental Treatment.  Tinuturaan din namin ang mga bata pano pangalagaan ang kanilang mga ngipin upang   ng maganda ngiti sa hinaharap 🙂

Q: anumang tip para sa mga kababaihan ngayong mga araw na ito, sa ating susunod na henerasyon?


A: Ang tip na maibibigay ko para sa mga lahat ng kakabihan sa buong MUNDO, 

1: wag matakot, sa una lagi ka nagkukumpara sa iba pero kung ipapakita mo sa iba kung ano at paano mo nalampasan ang TAKOT, talagang nagiging INSPIRASYON ka sa lahat ng Kababaihan tulad ko 🙂 

2: wag mahiya, ipagmalaki kung anu ang binigay ng Panginoon, dahil wala binigay ang Diyos na di maganda regalo sa atin.

3: maging positibo, wag magkumpara ipokus lang ang sarili, at 

4: GAWIN kung anu ang gusto mo, dahil maiksi lang ang buhay naten para sayangin ang oras sa mga bagay na wala naman katuturan 🙂

Please stay tuned to see more interviews of other curvasians from now on 🙂 

Plus size fashion promotes obesity? The fact is they are not related.

In the adult world, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and obviously you cannot change other peoples mind in a day or that telling you what i think is “better” than what you think will ever work, and it goes both ways. Afterall, my blog is about my passion for fashion and also to help women gain their confidence from within. They can co-exist but also are independent topics of one’s insterest.

Body Diversity

 

There are always much noise angling on body images
and related campaigns simply because we focus so much on visual stimulants nowadays. While I understand hearing different voices can
help improve a society or culture, I also feel that many are only just
using the exposure to promote their own ideas by bashing on others. I am definitely not trying to wow anybody
with explicit images or very outspoken languages to creat that XYZ
factor for it to go viral, which is very much the case in the
gigantic internet atmosphere.

 
Source: Breitbart.com

I chant on my own ideas of course, otherwise I wouldn’t blog, by writing things I have feelings towards and sharing
my opinions, it’s a way to express myself. I really don’t care if not many people are reading it.

However, can I talk about fashion without labelling a size, even if all clothing comes in all sizes? Certainly not. As fabric drapes differently on different curves and lines which create different visual effects, I need to address my size so people with similarity can relate. I am also a human being who longs to be in a community with likeminded people! And, when I talk about clothing options for me or other girls, it doesn’t mean I am promoting certain bodytypes or promoting chronicle diseases/eating disorders or think being obese is okay.

Understanding that everyone is different and having a diversity is really the key.

Freedom of speech

I feel that when you read the comments online, people just keep repeating themselves like broken records over the same topic and they don’t stop, and all the heating arguments just read the same, but actually people are just supporting their own interpretation on something that has different context from each other even though it seems that we are talking about the same thing, just because they co-exist. Some tries hard to prove that what they say over rules the others, and often project their mix feelings onto something which could be just very simple, even 1 dimensional category like clothing, it really drives me crazy.

I hope more people will understand when they try to
argue about stuff – don’t interlink different topics to create your
version of argument! If it is out of context, then it is not be
valid, also there is no one side of the story which represents the whole, so you already lose tring to argue. Afterall, how much time are we going to waste on writing/ reading mostly confusing interpretations on the comment section?



Causes of Obesity

A lot of the people thinks that there should not be plus size clothing/ plus size models because we are promoting obesity. Here, they are mixing two things up again.

Obesity will not stop happening if people don’t know how to eat right, it will not stop happening if we don’t exercise and overeat at the same time. Just like drugs and any other addictions, they will not vanish just because it’s illegal. It’s human nature that there will be desires, temptations, ignorance or lack of education/knowledge about certain things that are not good for us but are also source of stimulation. These are society problems. It also goes deeper than just simple addictions often of how one’s upbringing affect their attitude, personalities and values.

Obesity is an on going issue that needs to be addressed by teaching
people since young the nutrition value in foods – we must prevent it
happening instead of saying it will stop if what exists is vanished overnight. The government has the responsibility to
put this topic in the
school system, to influence how the society eats and move.

Plus size Fashion 

 

Plus size fashion needs to grow because people need to have choices.
Just because one doesn’t know how or having health issues that makes it hard to lose weight, doesn’t mean one cannot dress nice. So if there are demands, there will be supplies, it’s also fair enough that there are so many plus size brands nowadays all trying to get a piece of that cake. I remember when I was young, I can never find nice things to wear, but that didn’t help me lose weight! Indeed, it made me feel bad about myself and I didn’t know how to get out of that state of mind, at some point lead to food binge and then anorexia trying to get an answer to being happy, obviously none of it helped.

It would be silly to say banning plus size clothing is the ultimate answer because if no one makes fashionable clothes for fat people, then it will help the decline of obesity rate? Again, pointed out that these are separate issues above in the cause of obesity. People want to have choices; they want to do things that make them feel good, benefits themselves and business expansion is inevitable.
That’s that. We also want beautiful clothes to wear out, to go on dates, to go to the gym, to go on holidays. I don’t want to feel miserable and become a hermit that has no confidence, I want to live my life to the fulness!

Everyone deserves to live a life no matter how they look or what their abilities are to self-improve.

Beauty and Health from within

Having more clothing options in the last few years didn’t change me. In fact, I have only started to gain more confidence through out the year when I have learned to finally stopped caring about what other people thinks, when I stop comparing myself to others, and when I stopped listening to the opinions that I am worthless just because I am fat.

When I have finally blanked out the noises and start to listen to my own mind speaks instead, it is when the magic happens – I started to also care more about my health, eat right and be active. I learned a lot about calculating calories when I had eating disorder but I didn’t learn about the vitamins and minerals in each food category, now I am learning and it benefits me really well, which gives me great skin and a faster metabolism rate.

Also with the help of positive movement like #honormycurves it also leads me to believing that I have the same right as everyone else; as a fat person, I can also try to achieve the things I want, instead of telling myself I cannot.

Although there are certain group of people out there misinterpret that eating disorder is
ok, perhaps just small group of people in the beginning, but because of internet, it influences a
lot of young people whom have no clue but only wanting to relate, to really think they can treat their body irresponsibly with no consequence, which ultimately endangers their own health, I don’t agree. Same goes the the other end, some people goes to extreme distance to shame them I also don’t agree. Is it the best method to provoke thoughts? I am not sure, because if it worked then it already did.

To me, these words are not related because they are not in the same context, therefore, fat ≠ lazy, fat ≠ worthless, fat ≠ disgusting and unwanted, you define yourself of who you want to become.

On the other hand, if a person is naturally slim, don’t tell them to eat a cheese burger. The fact is you don’t know what’s going on in others life, so your opinion is best kept to yourself, and that’s my opinion.

Having a positive mindset is not easy if you didn’t start it right, this has a lot to do on how you grow up and having which kind of influences around you or how much you know about a topic. So in the end, You are the only person that can help you overcome your fear and your own issues. Looking for the right supports is also crucial, and one must have a clear mind to be able to analyse what is sensible and what not. In the end, knowledge is what can change our world not certain idea or standards.

 

Stefan Sagmeister: How happy are you?

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Hierarchy of needs

Rant over. I had no idea why I would spend so much time writing an essay about this. But I guess i need to get it out of my system so this will be the last time! From now on, I will ignore the comment section on any media, I am not going to waste my time on it, even though sometimes I find them amusing. Bye comment section!

Santa Rosa Fatkini vs Triangl Bikini

I saw today on Monif C‘s website that these new bikinis are up and I am kind of happy and sad at the same time. Why? I am happy because finally I get to wear this “Poppy” style shown above in my size, but then I am sad that it is almost exactly the same design as the brand Triangl which has already made their wave early last year. I have higher hopes in plus size brands that one day they have their own originality and that even straight size designers would admire our style. Although, I have learned that nothing is original nowadays, but there are ways to “Steal like an artist” instead.

I first saw this bikini style last summer and thought to myself, wow so lovely and cute, I wish they had it in my size (as usual), so automatically I go online and search for the brand. While doing research I also find that they are based in Hong Kong,
which further induce the complication of my feelings because it is so close yet so far to reach! Do you know how many times I have thoughts in my head of me asking various designers/ brands if they can make their clothes in my size? I even asked Triangl on their live chat once again today just to make sure, if they were able to make my size but the answer is of course no.

If we were all for body diversity, then Triangl would have made hundreds of thousand more bucks if not million last year, seeing plus size girls like me can also dip our feet in it, in return they can also dip into the 17.5 billion plus size clothing business, am I right?
But then I guess maybe the designers wouldn’t want to have bigger girls wearing their design, so does Kendell Jenner and Miley Cyrus, so of course the swimsuit goes up to size 10.

The original bikini was made in neoprene material selling at USD89 a set, it looks so gorgeous and cartoonish. Neoprene is also a very good material on all bodytype as it’s stretchy without binding on your curves too tightly, it is supportive and sooth any lines so it creates a “perfect” silhouette for every size. But then again, no point talking about it since it’s only up to size 10.

Whilst on the other hand Monif C’s Santa Rosa is made in nylon fabric supported by “power mesh”; the set cost over US100 but I can see the fabric is not following the curves right, which is to me the most important aspect to check when decide to purchase something as a plus size girl, especially buying online.

 

Monifc.com

So after comparing the original dreamy poppy neoprene bikini with the nylon meshy fatkini, I decided that I am going for neither and stick to my one cup size too small but supportive black padded bikini, until I find the next perfect bikini in my size.

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Taken at my last trip in Koh Samui

 

Curvasians from the Philippines – Danah and Stacy from The Plump Pinay

My recent visit to Manila has given me the opportunity to meet up with the beloved twins of The Plump Pinay, and I have finally had a taste of the #twinsanity first hand! Again, it’s proven that there is no boundaries when it comes to friendships, as long as one holds an open heart to try and do something new, including meeting new people you have only ever met on instagram!

I love meeting new friends from different countries, our conversation
gives me life as we all exchange our ideas and thoughts, and I am so glad that our
meetup turned out to be such a fun night and a memorable last moments
of the city!

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Playing cards against humanity!

Once I know I am visiting Manila, I have reached out to the gorgeous
twins as I can feel really good vibes about them, ever since we became friends online. These two are not just
dolls but pretty from inside and out, in their blog, they cover many
different subjects; food and fashion not to mention (thats what we all
love), they also address different society issues, e.g. human rights,
health, gender equality and also subjects that help build up women. Speaking of which, I was also being interviewed by them some time ago which I have given a thorough history of my own plus size journey and I feel so honored!

I
have always emphasised that, all women should support each other, make them stronger and build up one another, Danah and Stacy are indeed some very good examples; so it was no doubt that I want to
pay them a visit when I am in the Philippines! 😉

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They wrote a blog post which documented my visit and you can check it out here, I am so happy that they captured many fun moments in photos and the details of what we did all night!! I feel so lucky to have these 2 local guides to show me all the fun places and had a great meal in the end of the night.

Visit Theplumpinay.com to get to know the two!

Missguided launching their plus size clothing range AW14

I have just learned about this brand – Missguided from the UK, they are launching their plus size clothing range this month (UK16-24), and you can already shop online for the collection.
I like how they don’t try to differentiate the plus size range and the 0-12 range, as that’s what most fashion companies do nowadays, which sucks. And so it’s closer to the “straight size” high street fashion trends, and we won’t feel left out on the latest looks.

I mean look at this gorgeous faux fur vest!missguided-005-lo-res
Here below are some of my favourite looks in their latest collection.

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